But this guy was my friend for so long and have gotten to know him and care about him. He kind of knows I am racist, but he is sort of racist towards white people, so we almost laugh about it because we like each other. I know family and friends probably talk about it behind my back. I know it will kill me to break up with my guy, but will it be too hard to be together, because emotionally my dad and some family members won’t like it. I had boyfriends anyway, yet somehow remained a virgin until 22. I was also pretty impervious to peer pressure (one boyfriend tried that, found out I didn’t CARE if he broke up with me because of it).

One thing I don’t understand is how my husband can vociferously support a professional basketball team that is almost entirely black but still harbor bigotry towards black people? You should see how worked up he gets when watching the Celtics play. Last season he was so proud of the team, continuously branded the players on the team as “my boys.” It seems racism is a very complex thing that manifests itself in so many different ways. My husband has never been this direct in his disapproval.

And, given that boomer divorce rates are on the rise, increasing numbers of parents are likely to experience disapproval from their adult kids when Cupid’s arrows land. I don’t think it necessarily makes you a racist. There are different cultural issues and some things like possibly raising children are harder when you are a mixed race couple. I think you would be a concerned, but not racist parent if that is the focus of your objections. However, it may be that he is simply scared of getting hurt or thinks you will not like him back.

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Offer to listen while your parents explain their point of view. After you have listened to your parents reasons, you could point out that it is not fair to generalize all people of that race based on a few negative experiences. Do your best to have a reasonable discussion with your parents and avoid judging them before you have heard the whole story.

A cop JUST pulled me over questioning if the car was mine until I showed him ALL my papers. I think Asian people have a lot to offer if they’d let go of the stereotypes. Be smart enough to separate what media portrays vs who we are. Because if you go to prison you’re gonna see ASIAN, WHITE, MEXICAN, BLACK, its a narrow minded way of thinking. NO…case and point–not everyone black person is.

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I hate to even think what he means when he says that. I would have asked, but I was too shocked. I have had issues with my dad in the past as a teenager.

I don’t really have a solution for you, but your daughter is going to have some issues not only with your husband but you as well in the future if this continues. What if she ends up in an abusive relationship and can’t come to you because your relationship is so damaged from the actions of her father? Your husband needs to sit down and shut up and let her make the decisions about her relationships. If this guy was a bad guy, then yeah he could let her know about his reservations. But if he is a good kid and they’ve been friends for years, there is no reason for them not to date. You can help educate these family members so that they are more tolerant and loving toward people who are different from them.Talk about race at home.

I know my dad, brother, and grandfather will not approve of him. They won’t treat him badly, but I will know deep down that they will not like him. I don’t want to bring him home to meet my parents, something I want to do badly. So about 6 months ago a friend and I crossed from just friends into dating. I have told my mother, because she is my best friend. I know she would rather I meet a nice white man, but she supports me because she loves me so much.

He completely disregarded my feelings and also my sister’s. His obliviousness to human emotion sickens me. In the majority of these conversations, it became clear this was the first time these women had ever TransSingle considered that they might harbour racist views. Although they all either lived or worked in London, almost everyone in their lives was white, and so their assumptions about race had never been challenged.

Chances are, your parents have more wisdom than you do and it’s a good idea to take their advice. When you discover your parents strongly disapprove of your bf/gf, your first inclination will be to pull away from them and continue your dating relationship behind their back. Never secretly date someone your parents don’t want you to date. Having secrets and lies between you and your parents ruins trust and causes needless stress and drama which will affect your self-esteem, grades, and even your other friends.